When the plan changes
A gap semester, a transfer, a move back home: when a young adult's plan changes, parents often absorb the shock twice, once for their child and once for the future they had quietly pictured.
Before solving anything, it helps to name what was lost. A changed plan is rarely the emergency it feels like, and the fog usually holds real information about what was not working.
Worth asking yourself
- What did the old plan promise, and to whom?
- What is my child's behavior accomplishing right now?
- What would support look like that is not steering?